This is not my husband's fault, I know. He is a good man, but maybe just a little lacking in ideas, especially in the bedroom. Because of this, there have been times recently when I have thought of the idea of finding myself a boyfriend.

However, one of my friends has come up with another idea. I had been telling her how my sex life was a little dull, and she said to me: 'Why don't you try looking for that G-spot thing?'

I didn't really know what she meant, but she explained to me that there is a special female place called the G-spot, and that the Italians or the French or somebody have recently found out its precise location.

She said to me that if I could get my husband to stimulate my G-spot, then I would discharge again and again, and the orgasms would be real wonderful and earth-shattering ones!

She said they would 'blow my head off'.

My friend does not have a partner herself at the moment, but she thinks that her last boyfriend managed to find her G-spot one night before he left. Apparently, the result was sensational for her, although she would not tell me all the intimate details.

So what is that G-spot thing, doc? How could my man and me find it? And will it do everything my friend says?

A Before I explain about the G-spot, can I just beg you NOT to try and cure your problems by taking a lover? I am sure there are times when that seems like a real great idea, but the odds are that it would lead to a lot of fuss and trouble.

Frankly, I think your girlfriend's notion of getting your husband to find your G-spot is a much better one! However, the facts are not quite as she has told you, because (to be frank) she is exaggerating a little.

'The G-spot' is the name generally given to an area near the front wall of the vagina - an area which is reachable by the human finger. A German gyno found it, around 64 years ago. However, many doctors have refused to believe that there really is such an organ.

Be that as it may, there is no doubt that many women experience pleasant and unusual sensations when that area of their body is stimulated. But I cannot honestly say that many of my own patients have reported that G-spot stimulation gives them truly 'wonderful and earth-shattering' orgasms.

However, quite a few of them have said that they like being stimulated there, and that this 'love play' practice has given quite a new dimension to their physical relationships with their partners.

Now, how do you locate the G-spot? You can find it for yourself, but that is difficult unless you have real long fingers. It is much simpler if you ask your partner to locate it for you.

What you do is this. When you are relaxed and well lubricated, lie flat on your back on the bed. Then invite your husband to slip his longest finger inside you. Most important: the palm of his hand must be facing UPWARDS. Otherwise, this will not work!

Once his finger is fully inside you, he should make a gentle beckoning or 'come hither' movement with it - in other words, bend it. That will bring the tip of his finger into contact with the front wall of the vagina.

If he now moves that fingertip round a little, he will suddenly reach a point where you get a desire to pass urine (though you are unlikely to actually do so). The tip of his finger is now on your G-spot.

Now he should continue rubbing and stroking that area with his fingertip, being guided by you as to what feels good for you. Honestly, I would be a little surprised if all this activity makes you climax, at least in your early days of G-spot exploration. But if you do discharge, you will certainly experience quite an unusual and interesting sensation.

Two final points: A few women produce a type of female sex fluid when they discharge through G-spot stimulation and some ladies do NOT like having their G-spots rubbed - and simply tell the guy to stop!

But I hope that this 'new angle' will be a good one for you and your husband, and will make your love life more interesting - and perhaps help to keep you together. Good luck.

A You should have at least 35 years left, provided you remain in good health. These days, the majority of men can continue to make love 'til the age of 75 if they want to.

And medications like Viagra often make it possible for guys to go on much longer than that.

A In Jamaica, the average age for the menopause is between 49 and 51.

A Something is clearly wrong, in or near the womb. My best guess is that it may be endometriosis, which is a common condition that often causes severe period pain in your age group.

But clearly, you must see a doctor who has an interest in gynaecology - preferably this week.

A Some coaches try to forbid this. But in fact, there is no evidence that sex the night before will harm a person's sporting performance.

A I can't be certain, because I haven't examined you. But I suspect you may have a 'prolapse.' This is a sort of 'downward collapse' of the female sex organs, caused from repeated childbirth and sometimes from being overweight. It can be cured by taking an operation. You need to see a gynaecologist, who can examine you and tell you exactly what the problem is.

A Yes and yes. You probably have either gonorrhoea ('clap') or urethritis. You must NOT have sex with your wife 'til you have been cured.