Q Doc, I am 28 and female, and I just don't seem to be able to turn my man on. My best friend told me that if I held the testicles, that would drive him wild with desire. But it just does not seem to happen.

Please explain. Is there something wrong with my guy?

A This does not indicate that there is anything wrong with your man. Your best friend is not really correct. Most men - though not all - do like it when a woman places her hand gently on the scrotum, cupping the testicles.

However, the scrotum is not particularly well supplied with pleasure-inducing nerve endings. Therefore, you are not going to give your partner immense satisfaction by touching that area. Nor are you likely to make him discharge.

Your email also says that you are not using contraception. I think you should go to a clinic and get advice.

Q I am 19-years-old. I don't know much about sex, as my parents are dead and I had no one to teach me.

Last night, I let a boy discharge over my breasts. This morning, a friend told me that a woman can get pregnant that way.

Is she right?

A No, she is not. That activity is quite common among young people - especially when they don't want to 'go all the way' and therefore risk pregnancy.

So, I assure you that what you have let the young man do cannot possibly lead to conception of a baby. However, please be on your guard! This boy may well regard what he has done as the first step on a stairway that will lead him to taking your virginity.

It is sad that you have no mother or father to guide you. I feel that it would be a real good idea if you found a sympathetic, mature woman who could act as your adviser or mentor regarding emotional and sexual matters. She could be a great help to you during the next few years. A nurse, midwife or teacher could be the right person to guide you.

Q I am a 19-year-old man. I think something is wrong with my sex drive. You see, I can't last long while having sex.

A That does not indicate that there is something wrong with your sex drive. Instead, it suggests that you may have a mild degree of premature ejaculation (PE), which I have mentioned previously in this column.

Please look up the words 'premature' and 'ejaculation' on Wikipedia, and you will see what treatments are available. I suggest that after that, you consult a counsellor who can explain to you about the famous Masters-Johnson method of lear-ning to sustain erections.

Q I am 32 and still a virgin. Next month I plan to finally give myself to my fiance.

Will there be intense pain on penetration, Doc?

A When a woman in her 30s has sex for the first time, there is rarely any significant amount of pain. Indeed, if you are a regular tampon user, you might experience no discomfort at all.

My advice: Make sure that you are relaxed, and use a sex lubricant.

Q I am a man now but when I was 16, I used to masturbate a lot, perhaps four or five times a day.

I don't do this now, but I am wondering if it will harm me later in life.

A No, there is no way that this could have harmed your health. Quit fretting.

Q I recently bought some Spanish fly liquid to pep up my sex life. I would like to know if it will work, and also how many doses I should take.

A If this stuff really is the famous Spanish fly, you should throw it away immediately because it is dangerous.

What is Spanish fly? It is a fluid extracted from an insect. For a couple hundred years, some people have believed that a liquid derived from this beetle was an aphrodisiac. That simply isn't true.

All that the liquid does is to irritate the urinary tube, thus creating an itching sensation in the genitals. Unfortunately, the irritation can sometimes make the person very ill - or even kill.

So, I beg all readers to have nothing to do with Spanish fly, which is also known as cantharides. Remember, its effects can be fatal.

Q My partner says that he cannot use a condom, as his organ seems to 'collapse' when he tries to put it on.

Is this some form of sickness?

A No, it is just due to nervousness, which is common among many young men who are getting accustomed to using condoms.

When a guy becomes anxious, what happens is that a lot of adrenaline starts circulating in his bloodstream. And, alas, adrenaline makes erections collapse!

However, you can help your partner. The woman should take the condom in her hand and place it on the guy's organ. If he shows any sign of 'collapsing,' she should manually stimulate him to maintain the erection.

That trick works in the vast majority of cases. It is now recommended by sex experts around the world.

Q I am worried by the fact that if I have to pass urine while out in the country, the liquid seems to attract ants. Why?

A The ants are almost certainly being attracted by SUGAR in the liquid. That strongly suggests that you have diabetes.

Please see a doc for tests. Take a sample of urine along with you.

Q I am a guy, and to my horror I have noticed I am bleeding after sex. Why?

A The commonest cause in a younger male is just a little wart in the urinary tube. Please get a check-up by next week.

Need advice on sexual and other medical problems that are freaking you out? Email questions and comments to saturdaylife@gleanerjm.com, fax 922-6223, attention Doctor's Advice; or drop off at The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston.

Q Doc, where do the symptoms of sexually transmitted infections (STI) appear? I have a rash on my neck, and it also appears in my hair.

Nothing prescribed has worked, so I am frustrated and fretting, wondering if this could be an STI.

A It is very unusual for an STI to cause a skin rash. Admittedly, both syphilis and AIDS can sometimes produce rashes.

However, statistically speaking, it is far more likely that the rash on your neck and scalp is caused from a common skin disorder such as eczema, psoriasis; seborrhoeic dermatitis or skin allergy.

In contrast, venereal infections usually produce symptoms in the genital area. These possible symptoms include:

Discharge from the penis.

Pain in passing urine.

Painless lump or ulcer on the genitals.

Genital blisters.

Unless you have any of those symptoms, the odds are that you have a skin problem, not a venereal one. Go to a doc who is skilled in the diagnosis and treatment of skin disorders.