Hands off, Mister! Coping with 'touchy-feely' creeps at work

Published: Saturday | January 3, 2009


Nadisha Hunter, Gleaner Writer

Few things are more annoying than employees who put their creepy-crawlies on co-workers. But when touching gets into the realm of general discomfort and, even worse, sexual harassment, staffers are encouraged to take matters into their own hands.

Dr Leahcim Semaj, psychologist and career consultant at The Job Bank, urges employees to stand their ground and not allow co-workers to impose their will on them. Although some women cross the line popular sentiment suggests men are the main culprits.

"Men need to know that a lady's body is not a toy and so they should be disciplined," stated Semaj.

He advises female employees to establish, from the get-go, the rules of engagement - stating clearly what is acceptable behaviour and speaking out when persons overstep boundaries.

Value

If the lines are blurred from the beginning, it becomes difficult later to change the rules of the game.

"Your person is sacred and anybody touching should do so with your consent. Once you allow anyone to touch, it can reach a stage where the woman loses value," Semaj warned.

Michael Blair, principal of Bermaddy Primary School, shares similar views. He said an organisation's code of conduct should specifically address sexual and other inappropriate behaviour, and should be laid out during the orientation process.

nadisha.hunter@gleanerjm.com

What bosses and companies should do:

  • During orientation, the company's code of ethics, which should detail mutual respect for the rights of each employee, must be issued to newbies.

  • If a report is made, it should be dealt with immediately. The procedure should be: - The supervisor should address the matter.

    - If continues, the matter should be dealt with at the managerial level.

    - If the matter still continues, counselling should be sought for the employees.

    - If this doesn't work, drastic action should be taken - suspension or termination.

    Tips on inappropriate touching:

  • Let co-workers know you do not appreciate their touching you, and they should kindly desist.

  • If it continues, confront them firmly; let your words, tone and body language clearly express your displeasure.

  • If persons persist, report it to a line supervisor; someone at the managerial level.

  • If the situation escalates, bring relatives, such as a cousin, brother or boyfriend, into the picture, so they can warn the individual/individuals. However, such confrontations must not be physical or boisterous.

  • If it still continues, report it to the police.

    Touchstones on stopping touching

  • Women should conduct themselves professionally at all times.

  • Treat persons with respect and they will return it to you. If respect is shown, they won't make certain advances.

  • Avoid having sexual conversations with men in the workplace.

  • Avoid hugging and kissing when greeting co-workers.

  • When shaking hands, exert a small amount of pressure, then release the person's grip.

  • If a person makes unsolicited sexual overtures, avoid dialogue and interaction unless it's business.
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