The Editor, Sir:

There are no instant solutions when training children, since children learn gradually, over time. It takes a lot of caring and loving, a lot of time and work, to properly raise any child, especially a difficult-to-raise child. And it is an open secret that Jamaica is loaded with a lot of difficult-to-raise children.

Duty of a parent

The following sayings will always be helpful to remember: Parents must say what they mean, mean what they say, and do what they say. One of the most frustrating aspects of the problem of dealing with children who have worrisome behaviour is their inordinate craving for attention. Too often the attention that discipline receives is negative, rather than positive. I would encourage all parents to be quick to notice, commend or reward good behaviour or a job well done.

Children need small but immediate rewards: praise for a job well done; love, hugs and warmth in facial expression; tangible reinforcement, like jelly beans in a jar etc., depending on the age of the child.

I am, etc.,

PAUL G. MESSAM

Guidance Counsellor

Mona High School