Tips for good communication
How you talk to your child can make a big difference in how you understand each other.
| Do | Say |
| Listen | I feel that right now you need to listen to me. |
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| Praise | You worked so hard and I am proud of you. |
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| Feel | I feel ... I am so angry when you ... I love you. |
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| Respect | It's your choice. What can I do to help you? |
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| Listen and | It sounds like you were very unhappy about |
| repeat | your class. Is that right? |
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| Trust | I know you will be thoughtful and responsible. |
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| Affirm | You are so smart. You make me happy when |
| you ... |
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| Clarify | Could you tell me more about your argument |
| with your friend? |
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- Adapted from 'Building Blocks to Effective Communication'.
www.advocatesforyouth.org/parents/buildingblocks.htm.
