Petrina Francis, Staff Reporter

Bedroom boredom is a perennial problem that can bleed a relationship of its vibrancy. Some persons try to find solutions, but others suffer in silence because they fear hurting their partners.

According to counsellor and therapist Leaford Henderson, boredom implies a lack of fulfilment.

"So, if there is boredom or lack of satisfaction, then this implies failed expectations, and if there are failed expectations, the important thing to bear in mind is that one has to examine what those expectations are," he says.

Initial phase

Henderson explains that the initial phase of the relationship is usually rooted in passion, but research has shown that this wears off significantly with time. Therefore, it's extremely important that couples learn to build intimacy, communication and creativity to satisfy each other.

"That's a goal which that individual needs to set as the relationship progresses, otherwise what you find is that first hot passion, after it wears off, there isn't anything significant to keep the relationship going," Henderson argues.

Divorce dilemma

The counsellor said research has shown that more than 65 per cent of marriages end with significant problems.

"One of the ways that problems manifest themselves is through boredom in sexual relationship. When there is boredom, it indicates some problems," the therapist adds.

Among the factors precipitating boredom, Henderson notes, are relational, social, psychological and physical issues. He also say sexual problems which lead to boredom can be caused by sexual dysfunction.

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