'No man is an island, no man stands alone. at times I beg to differ, the saying is extremely true. This came to mind one morning as I was being driven to a nearby destination. We were forced to stop because of a huge tree that had fallen into the road. I watched in amazement as the male drivers got out of their vehicles and assisted in clearing the road.

It was commendable to see so many working together at one task without any problems. Despite the pessimistic comment made by one person, that it was no use trying to accomplish a seemingly impossible task, he was proven wrong, as within minutes we were once again on our way.

It goes to show that one should never underestimate the power of teamwork. Once you are committed to the task at hand there is nothing that can stop you from completing it. However, there are times when no matter how hard you try, it's truly frustrating to work with people, especially when doing school projects and other group activities. It may be a difference in thought or even personality, but for some reason you just can't see eye to eye with them.

Identifying the difficulties

Sonya: "By the time I realised it, I'd got stuck with some of the worst people anyone could possibly work with! Theo was convinced that he could do everything and always ended up doing nothing; Shawn thought he could play the part of the silent partner and Raquel could never find time to attend group meetings. In the end I did it by myself and reluctantly added their names to the list of group members."

Sonya's story is one that many of us can relate to. Despite this, many of us do not know how to handle such persons and find ourselves feeling miserable and confused. Outlook Youth decided to compile a few tips that will be sure to help you.

When I find myself having to work with people who prove to be difficult, I usually:

Options	No. of Responses
Ignore them and finish the task by myself	20
Try to find a compromise	17
Complain to my lecturer	13

POLL

Finding a solution

Assess the situation

Sheena, 21 - "It took me some time before I realised that the person wasn't actually being difficult on purpose. When I assessed the situation I realised that she was going through a really hard time and decided to take out her problems on me. From there I was able to talk to her about it, and she confirmed my suspicions, and together not only were we able to find a solution but also we began to work effectively as a team."

Don't get too personal

William, 19 - "I usually distance myself from them. By doing so, I often realise that their conduct may not be a personal attack; that's just the way they are. From there I can easily find a way to work with them despite the difference in our personalities."

Be Honest and Open

Alphanso, 17 - "When you decide to confront the 'difficult person' ensure you are prepared. Be specific and express your feelings so that he or she will understand and, hopefully, you will both be able to come to a solution."

Don't retaliate

Julianne, 22 - "The worst thing you could do is argue with them. Instead, be assertive and take an approach that is contrary to what is expected of you. Let them know that their behaviour is unacceptable without being verbally abusive."