Daviot Kelly, Staff Reporter
KELLY
SORRY! IT'S not the hardest word to pronounce, in fact, it's quite easy. The problem is what this word represents and why we have to use it.
There's something about human beings, especially men, when it comes to apologising (there I said it). But if you've wronged the wife or girlfriend, then you're in deep you know what and there's only one way out.
Men simply find it hard to apologise. We don't know why that is but perhaps sorry is sometimes an admission that (gasp!) we were wrong. In a world where the male is always told to be dominant from he was a mere boy, admitting to being wrong and (gasp again!) fallible, doesn't sit well with the ego. Darn that socialisation!
For some people, apologising is easy. And by 'some people' we mean women. But that's women for you and they do some things easier than us fellows anyway. Guys, on the other hand, well, that's another story.
"Just to stop all the argument I'll say sorry," says one fellow with whom I shared intelligence. "Sometimes I don't think I've done anything wrong, but for a peaceful life, I do it." I can hear the women going "tsk, tsk" now. In all fairness ladies, he has a point. If a guy knows there won't be peace/piece between himself and his lady love until he apolo-gises, why shouldn't he just give her what she wants?
This, however, poses another problem. Apologies are best served sincere so a bland and hurried 'sorry' won't fool a 'real' woman. The level of the offence has to be taken into consideration too. Forgetting her birthday or your anniversary is one thing; cheating on her is grounds for murder.
If you feel within yourself that you have nothing to apologise for, then don't! (Although the cheating one is kind of difficult to justify). The outcome of a lame apology is the same as if you didn't apologise at all! Now fellas, on the occasion we do have to eat humble pie, flowers or a small gift might be a nice addition. Although with the so-called modern women, it might seem like we're trying to buy affection (we can't win, can we?). Then again, gifts might not be necessary especially if it wasn't that big of a falling-out anyway.
But the number one and most effective way to overcome having to apologise is ... drum roll please, make sure it's her fault! But since it's always OUR fault (or so they tell us), that might not work. Like I said, we can't win. Oh well, at least we don't have that 'time of the month' thing. And that's something we're not apologetic about!
