Man sings the blues

Dear Pastor,

I hope you can help me. I met a man in 1992. When he met me I had a child who was less than one year-old. My child's father did not help me support her. I told this man about him and I also told him that I did not want any man. So he went his way.

After two months I met him again and we talked. I repeated, I did not want another relationship. We continued to talk from time to time. He was very nice to me, so after eight months we started sleeping together. When my little girl was ready to go to basic school and I asked her father to help me, he told me to ask my man because he does not have it. The man I was sleeping with gave me money, and he told me not to ask the child's father for anything, he would support the child. From that day until now this man is taking care of us.

At the end of the month he brings home his cheque and I am the one who takes it to the bank. He allows me to handle his money. I heard that he was friendly with a woman and going to her house. I asked him about it and he said he was only fixing something for her. What he said he was repairing, he cannot do that type of work. So I know he was up to something. Another time he had the girl do something for him and we had a quarrel. I told him to go to her if he wants to do that, but he should not take me for a fool. He said he is not taking me for a fool because he loves me, and the lady said they are not intimate friends.

He said he is not leaving me because he loves me. I love him too. He lent out some money and since that time things are not going right for us. He was getting a fight at his workplace, so he lost his job. He is discouraged. One day he was under so much pressure, he cried. It is two years now he has lost his job. I try to encourage him.

My relatives love him and they also love his relatives. It breaks my heart to see him discouraged. Sometimes I feel that he will do something bad to himself because he is under so much pressure. Please send up a prayer to God on his behalf. Pray also for my children and my mother. Pray that God will help us to get back on our feet and get married.

G., St. Andrew

Dear G.,

This is a good man. I am sorry that he has lost his job and I will pray that God will provide employment for him. He has helped you very well. He is going through lean times now, but that does not mean that God has abandoned him.

Do your part by encouraging him. Give him moral support. So not bother about the petty jealousy. You know he loves you and he wants to be with you, so stay with him. May God help both of you.

Pastor

Caught fishing!

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem with my boyfriend. We have been intimate for the past six years. I love him very much. He got involved with another girl from my district. I heard about it, and I asked him, he denied it.

One night I went out to work. I did not return until the following day. When I got home, I saw my boyfriend and the same girl in my bed. I packed my belongings and went to stay at my parent's home. After a month he came back for me.

We have been together again for the past year, but he has started to have a lot of women. He does not care how I feel about his carrying on and whenever I leave, he is quick to come back for me. I love him very much.

Please tell me what to do. I am feeling stressed out. Sometimes I am so worried, I think I am going crazy.

C.W., Hanover

Dear C.W.,

This guy knows that you will always return to him even if you stay with your parents for a week, a month or longer. He is not treating you with respect. He loves his women and nothing you say or do will stop him.

You will have to make up your mind either to share this man with many other women or leave him permanently. You are not prepared at the moment to leave him and you would like him to have you alone as his woman but that is only a wish. It is not going to happen.

If you do not want to go crazy, leave him. Before I go I should tell you that you must not have sex with this man unless he uses a condom. If he is running women, you can never know what he will pick up and pass on to you.

Pastor

Hard-worker wants woman!

Dear Pastor,

I have been a single man for the past four years. I was in an abusive marriage, so I got divorced. I spend much time at work to overcome everything. I have no time to play around. I am a nursing assistant, so I work twenty-one hours, seven days per week.

I am from Jamaica, but I have been in the United States of America for over ten years. I would love to get in contact with a serious minded lady who is looking for a man with the possibility of getting married. She should be thirty-five years or older.

T.A., Florida

Dear T.A.,

You are a hard worker. You send many hours at work. Please remember that if you were to get married again you would have to spend less hours at work. Your wife would need some of those hours. People who neglect family life, do so to their own peril.

We will send the names and addresses of the women who are interested in corresponding with you. I wish you well.

Pastor

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