Honest, caring Christian man wanted

Dear Pastor,

Please allow me to introduce myself. I am G.J. I was born in Antigua. I have been living in Toronto, Canada for the past twenty years. I have three children. I have been divorced for a long time and I am a Christian. My reason for writing to you is to ask you for some help if you see it fit.

I have been living with my children and I have been celibate. I am now forty years old. I do not go to parties. I go to work, church and interact with my children along with other workers.

I would like to meet someone who wants a true and meaningful relationship, someone who is honest, caring, a Christian who is not self-righteous, or who just says he is a Christian for the sake of saying it.

To meet someone in Toronto, you either have to drink, smoke or go to parties. I am not in that group, neither do I have friends who do. I socialise yes, but it has to be in a decent respectable manner. This is how I was raised. I have a good heart, and lots of love to give. I am a sharing, caring person, but the men I meet only want sex and overnighters. I am not a pit stop. I have to respect myself and also my children.

If it is possible and you do know of anyone who would be interested in an honest relationship, with a caring woman who is 5 feet 10 inches tall, and has confidence in herself, you can introduce him to me. He should be a man who wants to make a new start, he should be self-reliant, hardworking, caring and willing to listen. He should like children and should be over forty. However, he should not be over fifty, and around 5 feet 11 inches or taller. He should believe in the sanctity of a one man one woman relationship, and not an abuser.

I am sure that you have gotten the idea of what I am asking. If you can help me I would be most grateful. If it is not possible for you to do so, thank you nevertheless. If you can help I would prefer him to be someone in whom you have confidence.

I wish you God's greatest blessings. Thank you for this opportunity and may His peace be with you.

G.J., Toronto, Canada

Dear G.J.,

Let me begin by mentioning that I receive many letters from Antiguans and it is just pleasing to know that people from the different islands, whether they are living in the Caribbean or North America enjoy reading the column. Sometimes I wonder how they get THE STAR, but many have told me that relatives send the paper to them.

You are a dedicated Christian. You have laid your cards on the table. You are not pretending to be a saint, but you need a godly man in your life. You will hear from me soon. I know that many men will contact me, so you pray and I will be praying for you too.

Pastor

AIDS victim having sex with several partners

Dear Pastor,

For the past three years, I have found myself with the AIDS virus. I am still having sex with men. Sometimes I feel like killing myself. I do not mean that I am having sex with only one man. I have had sex with more than one hundred men. I am twenty-one years old. I do not have any children.

Please tell me what to do. I need help. I am slim. Every man who sees me wants me. I am wondering when I am going to die. I also do oral sex. I am worried.

H., Kingston

Dear H.,

I am very sorry to learn that you have the AIDS virus. I am concerned because you are continuing to have sexual intercourse with different men, and these men are not aware that you are infected. I would like to suggest that you call the AIDS Helpline. Please call them today. The numbers are 967-3830 or 967-3764. You may also call toll free 1-888-991-4444.

I know that you have written to me because you need help. You know also that it is wrong to be having sex with so many different men. I want you to know that I will be praying for you. I am not condemning you for what has happened, I am only trying to urge you to quit having sex and to seek help by calling the numbers I have given.

May the Lord grant you peace of mind. Let me hear from you again. I would like to know what is happening to you.

Pastor

Trying desperately to become pregnant

Dear Pastor,

This is my second letter to you and I have not had a response to the first. I am 26 years old and for the past six years I have been trying to get pregnant, but I have been unsuccessful.

I have done everything possible to become pregnant. I went to the doctor and he told me that my left tube was blocked. However, he said he will not try to clear it because that might cause both tubes to become blocked. I desperately need to have a child. I will do anything to have a child.

My boyfriend already got a child so he is not the problem. The doctors also told him that he was okay. I know I can take care of a child properly. I need someone who I can truly love, someone I can care for, and that person must be a child of my own.

I am planning on getting married and to give my life to the Lord. I want to be a child of God, and I want to be ready when he comes. Please pray for me that my wish may come true. I know that without Christ I would be nothing.

May the Lord continue to help you, so that you may help others.

J.R., Clarendon

Dear J.R.,

You are probably trying too hard to become pregnant. It has been proven over and over again, that when a woman is totally relaxed and not even thinking about becoming pregnant, that is the time it happens. So it is not too late for you to become pregnant. Life is very strange. Some doctors have even encouraged women who find it difficult to have children to adopt, and while they are taking care of the adopted children and not even thinking of their own pregnancy, they become pregnant.

Give your life totally to the Lord and He will guide and direct your path. Remember all things are possible through Christ. You don't have to get married before you commit yourself to the Lord. Who knows, one of these days you may end up having twins or triplets and they may be more than you have planned for.

Keep trusting in the Lord.

Pastor

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